Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Looking back, I'm glad I came in third.

When I was in junior high school
my father shared a little secret with me.
I remember being shocked by it at the time.

I think we were talking about the
commitments we make in life.
Discussing, as it was, the hierarchy of love.

He told me that in his life,
God came first.
His marriage came in second
and his kids were in third place.

Those were the three most important
things in his life.
But no,
we weren't all equal.

God, first
Wife, second
Children, third

I remember thinking
about the Dad I adored
and loved so much.
He put me down there
in third place!

I know that
our family unit stayed
strong and intact because
his relationship
with his wife
was always
more important
to him
than his relationship with us.
If he had never told me,
I would have never known.
I couldn't feel more loved.

God
Marriage
Children
In our family, thankfully,
there was no other way.

5 comments:

T said...

Seriously, I can't imagine where we would be if my parents had demoted one another in the name of their children!

J. Thorp said...

Amen, T. It's tough to grasp sometimes, but makes more sense to me every day ...

T said...

It's worth a discussion, that's for sure.

J. Thorp said...

I'll add that to the "agenda" for you next visit ... :P

Jodi said...

It is good to be reminded of the order. The book that I just finished reading really emphasizes that too. It did certainly work for your parents, so will have to make sure we work on keeping it that way.